Ooh My Trip, Travel Log & Update (VIDEO)

We here at OohMyHair.com had one helluva (I love that version of the sentiment) anniversary celebration and thought that you should share in the joy that you’ve helped create.

This is a new phase of the blog,  the intent is to bring you much more content via videos and some interactive posts. Nothing can fully capture how appreciative we are for his long you continue to trust your lovely curls and kinks to the advice given on this page.  Enjoy the video and subscribe to the new YouTube channel!

~Love

Good Groceries

 

Groceries

There you sit on wash day and your bathroom sink looks more like the church kitchen during a Repast.

All the Olive Oil, all the eggs…

You can freestyle if you’d like  especially if you enjoy experimenting,but here are some links to some great recipes.

 Leave-in /Refresh

 Cleanser

Deep Conditioner

If you find yourself frustrated and consequently hungry just remember you can go in with a plan. It’s ok if you don’t. Some of my favorite creations were Wash Day remixes (However, I create creams).  Try a few recipes at a time and come back to share!  I’ll be honest the majority of my  good groceries don’t make it to Wash Day  so I’m really interested to read about your success.

Enjoy!

Weavie Wonder

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photo credit: 0 Magazine Hair by: Kim Kimble

Time after time, the Nat-life Gurus go on a witch hunt in search of the next thing to shame people about. (You know it’s true, last year it was hair color).

So now the proverbial “Big Bad Wolf” is Weave!

Are there valid concerns as to the overall health of wearing a weave?

Absolutely. As I have always expressed an improperly installed weave can be devastating to your growth journey or scalp health.

Are there some people who lose themselves in Euro-centric standards of beauty?

Every day.

But, here are the benefits of a properly installed “Weave”

1. The ability to play with texture and color without causing any permanent change to your own hair. Versatility is a wonderful thing.

2. The remedy for hand in hair syndrome. You can get your flatiron fix on the fake hair and not wake up bald. This is especially true when none of your hair is out along the edges.

3. If cared for property hair inside of a weave can retain consistent moisture, which aides in growth and health. Moisture and protection from harsh conditions (extreme heat and cold) are part of a complete balanced hair routine.

You were able to see in a previous journey gallery that fake hair doesn’t have to be harmful nor does it have to play into any stereotypes and can actually ease you into embracing your own hair along the way.

Don’t let the internet bullies define your style. If your hair is protected, that’s a Protective Style.

Have you been wondering about this? Share your story in the Comment Section below.

OohMy Allergic Reaction

Here’s the link to my source on this thing that I’m dealing with. 

When you’re dealing with things from nature, and you’ve got general hay fever or allergic reactions to vegetation you have to be aware of these juices and berries we use in our daily hair care plans. This is an ongoing story as I have not identified the exact source of my allergic reaction but I’ve doubled down on the all natural products this month and thought that this is something worth sharing.

The color itself comes out amazing. Buy it a: http://reshmafemme.com

First I colored my hair with Dark Black Henna. I noticed an itching in my left eye, but thought that it was just seasonal allergies. Although I’ve not had regular bouts with allergies here in Ohio, it’s happened before so I ignored it and made sure not to rub my eye to further irritate it.

Next, I attended an outdoor event int he woods. It’s my sincere expectation to have an itch or a bite when I do anything in the woods so the additional itching around my neck came as no surprise. I played dodge ball that evening took a normal shower but since my hair didn’t feel gross, I did not shampoo or co-wash.

Two days later I was in a parade in a part of town that has nothing but trees. I had a tickle in my throat but because I was representing my Sorority I refrained from spitting while in my letters and on display. Later that evening the symptoms became unbearable. I got high on Benadryl and it wasn’t until I took Laratadine that I got some lasting relief. There aren’t any Hitch looking pictures to share but I thought I’d share my story to see if anyone else had experienced this. I used the Reshma Femme brand which I love. I didn’t have this problem when I used their Dark Brown.

Two Shampoos (read Wash Days)  later with Miss Jessie’s

Love this stuff. Buy it from: http://misshessies.com

…and all of my allergy symptoms are gone. Which leads me to believe that although I have a fresh-cut grass allergy, the culprit was on top of my head and dripping down.

Share your story if you’ve experienced the same thing OR if you know of a trick maybe a prep step to help overcome it drop a comment. The gray babies can’t stay, I’m too young for the number of sprouts that I have so I’m covering them with something. 🙂

Fall Natural Hair Trends 2014

Often when it’s time to style, especially in the early stages it’s not easy to come up with what’s next. For many loose hair naturals (not in locs) the fall presents some interesting styling options that keep our hair safe, stylish and function. The temperatures rival the perfect Fro weather that the Spring brings, but the drying air gives the protect, protect, rest routine a faster rotation.

 

I’ve looked around the web, and here are some styles that I think are on trend and will keep you on your healthy hair journey.

 

Style 1. The Twist-Out Up-do

This style provides you the opportunity to have some hair in the wind while still being able to protect your ends. The night-time care or this style should include the application of a Shea Butter based moisturizer and lightly twisting large sections to prevent matting and preserve the curl. This one can go from the boardroom to the ball which means that you can keep your hands out of your hair and still be ready for the occasion. Homecoming time, this is a win especially for the student on a budget.

Stylish Twist-Out Updo From: http://galeriasaharaui.org/

Style 2. The Roll

Retro styling is very on trend this Fall in both hair and fashion. This modern roll with braided sides is perfect for the Early natural with the assistance of Kanekalon hair, or the Vet that has enough to achieve this with her own stands. I love how this particular model was styled with a large geometric colorful earring. This is a style that yields to accessories well and from the looks of it will not fold if we encounter an early sweater day.

The Roll From : http://hairjaz.com/

 

Style 3. Goddess Braids

These are not your old school chunky braids. Long hair styling has become more multi-cultural. These braids have Celtic ties but they look amazing on every type of hair. Below is just one example but the concept is to create your own crown. If you’re a night styler like me and you prepare your hair for the next day each night, variations of Goddess Braids will provide you with maximum protection on windy days and plenty of play time at night. Not a braider? No worries, these also look fabulous as twists. Retro styling with a modern adaptation.

Style 4. Spring Twists

This is a style that works for students and mothers. A spring curl patterned extension is used to achieve this look and the length, color and bounce make this style a versatile all-occasions wake up and go style. I recommend not only this specific style but this shape of hair (When trying to explain it to my mother I called it “Body Guard Curly Whitney with a Natural Twist”). This is a fun length so if you can achieve this shape with traditional two-strand twists its still a win.

 

Style 5. The Stretched Fro

If you want to know what I love the most about being natural I’ll tell you three words sung in my best Pharrell voice *Pinapple and Go* and I’d do the beat. With very low heat and no comb you can take your curl pattern that you’ve grown to love, section your hair with your fingers, apply moisture and anti-breakage product, and blow each section individually gripping your hair and waving the blow drier achieve 2 weeks of fun! You can sweat, it can rain, you can get caught in the wind but a stretched Fro remains faithful like a US Postal Carrier. This is a great style for Vets that know how to keep their ends balanced with the proper moisture and when it’s time to twist down. Consider this the base style with multiple variations available. Styles 2 and 3 can be achieved starting with this style. When in doubt…. Fro it out!

 

 

As usual ask questions when it stops making sense. Click on the pictures to find some other great sites for styles.  Let us know if you try any of theses or if you want me to try one on my hair (Hint, I’m already stretched).

Also tell us how you like the new layout. That logo will be available on T-shirts soon so be sure that you’re on our mailing list because you’ll be the first to know!

Fun with Fake Fake Hair…

Who said that weave had to be an instrument of self hate and a perpetuation of European standards of beauty?

( A bunch of the old head naturals….. you know you can name at least 3)

Well I’ve always been fortunate to find textured extensions and there are some people who believed that some of my HUGE Diana Ross-esque #BigHairDontCare styles over the years were mine.

When you are transitioning, protective styles are your friend. They help you get used to your new face, and start owning your style. Weave in particular is a great playground to experiment with lengths and colors to determine what your hair goals will be. Below are a few gems that I’ve come across that are fun to use, inexpensive and they hold up well. Please keep in mind that for me to keep a hairstyle for 3 weeks is an indication that I’ve been messing up the money, or I don’t feel well. I say that because I have never gone the distance with these brands so I don’t know if it will stay in your head for three months. I don’t condone that anyway, but that’s for another post. 🙂

Wa-wa Super

Zury Tika SUPER

Marley Braid/ Kinky Twist

Model Model Water Wave Synthetic

and now good old-fashioned $2.99 Jumbo Braid Kanekalon. (Who knew, right?)

All of the above require a crafty mind and some creativity in styling since they are all synthetic and you can’t just wand it up and go, but the finished look is fun and most of all gives a natural looking finish. This is a short post, but I want you to see just how much I’ve been able to do with synthetic hair. Hopefully you feel inspired to take your protective styles to another level without spending a fortune on hair:

Enjoy my fake fake hair gallery. If I don’t name a stylist then I did that style myself.

 

Zury Tika Super stylist Ebony C. Cincinnati, Ohio Circa 2010

Zury Tika Super stylist Ebony C. Cincinnati, Ohio Circa 2010

Circa 2010 Wawa Super  top left. Synthetic ponytail both pictures on the right, and shrunken wash & go of my own hair in that time frame bottom left.

Circa 2010 Wa-wa Super braided front Stlyist Ebony C. Cincinnati, Ohio top left. Synthetic ponytail both pictures on the right, and shrunken wash & go of my own hair in that time frame bottom left.

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Crochet Braids 2nd Attempt, all around leave out, pinned up style. Marley Hair

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1st Run Crochet Braids. Stylist T.Daniels, Cincinnati, Ohio Model Model brand synthetic water wave.

Jumbo Braid Kanekalon Crochet Braids. Straight. Blown dry sealed.

Jumbo Braid Kanekalon Crochet Braids. Straight. Blown dry sealed.

Jumbo Braid Crochet Braids, same installation, Perm Rod dipped ends.

Jumbo Braid Kanekalon Crochet Braids, same installation, Perm Rod dipped ends.

 

 

 

 

Marley Hair Twists

Marley Hair Twists

Jumbo Braid Kanekalon Updo.

Jumbo Braid Kanekalon Updo.

The Secret Life of Edges

(AMEN)

So you want to know what happened to your edges. After years of micro braids that revealed nothing but scalp because they were so “crispy” and weaves so tight they could be used as Kevlar helmets, slicking down with brown gel, and when that went out of style switching to beeswax but still only shampooing your hair every two weeks….

NOW you ask;

have you seen em’….. tell me have you seen ’em?”

*dun dun dun*

“Whyyyyyyyy oooh why did they have to leave and go awaaaaaaay?

(That was for the old heads, now that I’ve joined the over 25 life membership club)

Let’s break down what took them away and close with what will bring them back shall we? Let’s go.

Balding Point 1. Tension. (we’ve discussed this before)

Balding Point 2. Products. (here’s the refresher) Here’s the news. You can use just about anything on your hair for a short period of time and almost never experience a horrible dramatic/traumatic experience aside from chemical relaxers and color (you need to know what you’re doing with those two things). However products like edge control were designed to keep you hair laid for the night/moment, not all week. What you begin to do when you use heavy wax, creams, and alcohol base products is slowly either suffocate or dehydrate your hair. Cleanse your hair and keep product buildup to a minimum. Moisture is not product. Let’s not make that mistake. If your hair requires the addition of oils, that’s not what I mean by product. (Please don’t walk around here with your hair dry telling people I said keep the product down)

Balding Point 3. Manipulation. (in case you missed it). So you can click on the link and get my growth routine. I would also like to add this scenario to help you understand what’s taking place. It’s not that you move your hair, it’s how you move and manipulate it. Some people do their hair every single day and never experience breakage and strife. If you are one of the growing population in the Sisterhood of the Disappearing Edges consider this; Ever look at someone who doesn’t shave their legs but they wear tight high socks? Ever notice how the hair has a line that it starts to thin somewhere near where the socks usually start? If your hair is not very coarse (thick at the strand level) you might be rubbing out your hairline. Know your limitations and style accordingly.

Random Building Points.

  • Don’t sleep in a wig that is not secured to your head. That’s like sleeping in a hat and if it’s the kind with an elastic band, it will rub against your hair.
  • Shampoo your hair at the level in which you add buildup to your hair. If you slick down your hair daily you should try to cleanse every 5 days or so. (even that’s a long time but touch your hair and see if it feels weighed down or crunchy)
  • Wrap your hair with satin or silk in your down time.
  • Don’t endure the pain. If your style is keeping you from being able to go to sleep it may be really cute, but it’s not worth losing your edges over. Take that down. I know sometimes a style doesn’t feel tight until later, especially if your Braider starts with wet hair and your texture shrinks, but speak up in the chair if you feel that they are doing too much.
  • Seek professional assistance. If between you and your sink side stylist, you can’t get more than just enough to cover the track in your leave out section of your weave, stop by a salon and let someone that knows how to care for your hair build a program for your hair’s rehabilitation.

 

That’s it. Just wanted to hit you with some quick tips because the scary trend I’m seeing is missing edge concealing weaves without treatment. There are lots of Kitchmatology tips and techniques floating around and I don’t want you out here thinking that the only solution to your missing hairline is to slap a sneaky weave on it and pray. You can take control of the outcome of your hair if it’s not something medically or genetically induced.

 

As always ask questions if it stops making sense.

#LOVE

 

Product Selection Formula

I’ve received several requests for help with selecting products. Much of my Helpouts time has been spent doing just that, so I thought that I should share my formula on product selection.

 

Step One: Eliminate the products that contain, MEA, EDTA and parabens. Don’t be fooled by the front label that boasts of the infusion of all natural ingredients, flip that product over and read the back label. The above is not the full list of harmful chemicals but those have been  mentioned in studies regarding the harmful effects of chemicals in beauty products.

Step Two:Determine the needs of your hair. If you have dry hair, seek products that do not contain lanolin or mineral oils they will provide a false sense of moisture. If your hair is too oily, seek a clarifying and pH balancing shampoo and products.

Step Three: Figure out your styling needs. Too often I see women breaking out the edge control when their hair may only need a light mist of holding spray. It’s very easy early in your natural journey to style according to the needs of your relaxed hair, and even easier to style according to what your perception of society’s opinion dictates. The beauty of having naturally curly hair is that many styles will stay in place just because. Very rarely to I add even hair pins to my twist up-dos because I’m able to use the tension and the curl pattern, to my advantage. Less is more in this arena, start with the lightest product and build over time, you may find that the only “control” you need is some Shea butter and a brush.

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Step Three: Find the right price. Pay attention to how much you are spending. If there is a $50 product, there’s probably an equivalent in the $20 range. Combine steps one and two and narrow down the base ingredients in your desired selection and see who does it better. I’ve made the mistake of buying the high-end product with the motto in mind “you get what you pay for” when in reality, “you get what they sell you”. Be mindful of your needs and ask for samples prior to making any purchase over $10.

That’s it, my big secret is out. I make my own products using the base ingredients that my hair needs at the time, but when you see me in a store this is the process that’s taking place behind the scenes that leads my selection. Hope this helps, as usual, as questions if it stops making sense.

Enjoy your Journey!

Recovery Motivation

The wedding is over, it was absolutely gorgeous, and I get my hair back. There’s a phase that we all go through on the wash day after we know we’ve been acting funny towards our hair.

I went into instant heat damage detection mode. I watched every single strand that left my hair and freaked myself out. There’s no amount of knowing that your hair has a natural shed process that stops you from blaming yourself with every loose strand when you know you’ve done wrong. You reflect on every time you used the flat irons, every non-natural product you used, and every time your scarf fell off your edges while it was in such a delicate state.

I can laugh now because I’m looking at the extension on my diffused Fro, but last night I was sweating. I’m writing this knowing that there’s someone out there that feels like they are in a “backslidden”(made up church word) condition and you’re dreading that upcoming wash day to survey the aftermath of that crunchy up-do or that bone straight press that you touched up every morning all week. Here are a few words of encouragement for this point of the journey.

1.Be kind to your hair on the recovery and don’t freak out at shedding that seems a bit heavier than normal if you know you’ve done weird stuff to your hair. Use quality products with as little harmful ingredients as possible.

2. Try not to abandon your vitamins, but if you do (like I did, because I didn’t need my hair growing out like crazy) a couple of days before Wash Day get back on your normal dose.

3. Detangle with care. It’s ok to baby your hair. If you take your time you can avoid any further damage.

4. Forgive yourself. Every now and then we are called to pull up (get fancy) in a different way than we normally do and it’s alright to try different looks. If it’s not the creamy crack, you can always come right back.

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Be Encouraged 🙂

Nights like this I wish, I’d just cut it Off.

Picture it Cincinnati 2014.

I have my cousin’s wedding coming up and I’m extremely excited. It’s been a few days since the Bachelorette Party in Atlanta. The wedding is a week away and  I’m Maid of Honor, which means that I’ll show up in quite a few photos. The bride has requested that we all get weaves and put our hair in a beautiful style that she chose.  There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the style she chose, and she’s even been flexible on the texture of the weave.

Insert Quest.

I travel the city in search of just the right bundle of hair. I considered a curly pattern but worried that my hair wouldn’t blend with the slick feeling hair. My go to weave that matches my hair perfectly is synthetic and I’m just assuming that the stylist will use heat to achieve the style so that’s not an option…. I travel to the store of my youth, “Hair Lucky”.

After roughly an hour I locate a bundle of hair that the saleswoman assures me will blend well. I even touch the ends of the hair myself and note that it doesn’t have the slip that the other straight brands appeared to have.

Cut to my house.

I separate and braid my hair during my pre-Scandal evening and open the pack fully just as the first camera shutter sound crosses the screen.

Shiny ass hair = massive straightening of my hair required for blending.

It’s too late,  Abby is already getting paid dust at the campaign meeting and my hair is braided in a circle with the edges out.  This hair is going in my head.

The rest is too traumatic to share… In short there’s anti-frizz serum in my hair because it’s raining and I have to keep my edges laid. I almost passed out typing that.

Here’s the end result-

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I feel like a clown.  I feel guilty for putting the trash that is anti-frizz serum in my hair, mostly because I held on to a little before I took my natural journey all clean.  My poor blow dryer heat only hair has been sizzled with a flat iron in ways that would make many of my natural hair vets cringe.

So tonight’s mission is a Re-do (I will not let this be a real obstacle). If you know of a brand of weave that sells Super Wave in Human Hair that ships overnight contact me as soon as you’re finished reading.

I’ve had ideas of short styles… but I said that I would let it grow.  But a 2″ Fro with a Lotus cut into the side sounds dope.

Thanks for reading,  this was my hair therapy.  Have a backsliding hair story you’d like to share?  Email marellewrites@gmail.com I’ll keep you Anonymous if you’d like.