Ooh My Trip, Travel Log & Update (VIDEO)

We here at OohMyHair.com had one helluva (I love that version of the sentiment) anniversary celebration and thought that you should share in the joy that you’ve helped create.

This is a new phase of the blog,  the intent is to bring you much more content via videos and some interactive posts. Nothing can fully capture how appreciative we are for his long you continue to trust your lovely curls and kinks to the advice given on this page.  Enjoy the video and subscribe to the new YouTube channel!

~Love

Every Table…

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Hidden Files.. a style I never shared with you all.

My Granny had a saying: “Every table’s got to stand on its own legs.”

I’ve found many places to apply that saying in my life since she passed and today I’m going to apply it to hair.

Not just Natural Hair.
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There’s a misconception that there’s a no maintenance way of having one’s hair. The only way that you can have no maintenance hair is if you just simply refuse to maintain it as a principle. You just make the choice to give up completely. I don’t know where you work or what brand you represent but it’s not easy for anyone to get away with that in mainstream society. 

Now that we’ve got that out of the way,  please pick your struggle.  If you cut it all off, relax it, loc it, braid it, twist it…. there’s a routine that goes along with keeping it looking the way you want it. 

Don’t waste your time convincing yourself that life is better somewhere else and enjoy the journey of where you are today.  There will be days that you want to give up being natural, I think we’ve all had a “You know what… I quit” day, but just remember nobody’s holding you hostage.

This whole journey can be about self-love, health, individuality, heritage or none of those things. It’s up to you to decide what it means to you, because after all… you can’t stand on anyone else’s legs, you’ve got your own. 

I hope this brought some peace to someone struggling with this path.

You can always contact me for questions.  #Love

Weavie Wonder

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photo credit: 0 Magazine Hair by: Kim Kimble

Time after time, the Nat-life Gurus go on a witch hunt in search of the next thing to shame people about. (You know it’s true, last year it was hair color).

So now the proverbial “Big Bad Wolf” is Weave!

Are there valid concerns as to the overall health of wearing a weave?

Absolutely. As I have always expressed an improperly installed weave can be devastating to your growth journey or scalp health.

Are there some people who lose themselves in Euro-centric standards of beauty?

Every day.

But, here are the benefits of a properly installed “Weave”

1. The ability to play with texture and color without causing any permanent change to your own hair. Versatility is a wonderful thing.

2. The remedy for hand in hair syndrome. You can get your flatiron fix on the fake hair and not wake up bald. This is especially true when none of your hair is out along the edges.

3. If cared for property hair inside of a weave can retain consistent moisture, which aides in growth and health. Moisture and protection from harsh conditions (extreme heat and cold) are part of a complete balanced hair routine.

You were able to see in a previous journey gallery that fake hair doesn’t have to be harmful nor does it have to play into any stereotypes and can actually ease you into embracing your own hair along the way.

Don’t let the internet bullies define your style. If your hair is protected, that’s a Protective Style.

Have you been wondering about this? Share your story in the Comment Section below.

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See You Tuesday October 14th!

 

 

Nappy Out Loud 2.0 ~ Own It!

If you’ve ever sat through a Google Helpouts session with me you’ve heard me say this before.

You have to own it!

 

What does that mean?

That means that no matter who gives you tips, tricks or advice, it is up to you to devise the best possible hair care plan that suits you best. Nobody has to live with the decisions that you make for your personal appearance and wellness but you. It’s ok to have a one track mind when it comes to digging out information that will help you along your journey.

Even among the “experts” there is room for not just misinformation but things can be passed along that can potentially cause you harm. This is not to say that people have not gained awesome advice from simply asking people that they think would know the answer. I’m just making you aware that there are very-few absolute authorities within this industry, so be mindful of that fact if you find that something just doesn’t add up.  Don’t just ask more questions, but research the independent concepts on your own.

For Example: the MSDS is available online for almost any chemical found on a label, which will  possibly help fill in the gaps and help you make your own informed usage decisions.

Instead of tossing out all of your shed hair (s/n to the international readers, in America there are some people who believe in burning it so nobody can do voodoo on you…) save a bit to test some sample products on. Shed hair is useful, especially for those of you that have been asking questions about those temporary straightener products that I shall not name. Take the theories that you gather from here and other sites and find out for yourself.

Above all else, be sure that you make style, care and any other choices with self-love in the forefront. Looks like we have a theme song people. Thanks Kendrick Lamar 😉

 

OohMy Allergic Reaction

Here’s the link to my source on this thing that I’m dealing with. 

When you’re dealing with things from nature, and you’ve got general hay fever or allergic reactions to vegetation you have to be aware of these juices and berries we use in our daily hair care plans. This is an ongoing story as I have not identified the exact source of my allergic reaction but I’ve doubled down on the all natural products this month and thought that this is something worth sharing.

The color itself comes out amazing. Buy it a: http://reshmafemme.com

First I colored my hair with Dark Black Henna. I noticed an itching in my left eye, but thought that it was just seasonal allergies. Although I’ve not had regular bouts with allergies here in Ohio, it’s happened before so I ignored it and made sure not to rub my eye to further irritate it.

Next, I attended an outdoor event int he woods. It’s my sincere expectation to have an itch or a bite when I do anything in the woods so the additional itching around my neck came as no surprise. I played dodge ball that evening took a normal shower but since my hair didn’t feel gross, I did not shampoo or co-wash.

Two days later I was in a parade in a part of town that has nothing but trees. I had a tickle in my throat but because I was representing my Sorority I refrained from spitting while in my letters and on display. Later that evening the symptoms became unbearable. I got high on Benadryl and it wasn’t until I took Laratadine that I got some lasting relief. There aren’t any Hitch looking pictures to share but I thought I’d share my story to see if anyone else had experienced this. I used the Reshma Femme brand which I love. I didn’t have this problem when I used their Dark Brown.

Two Shampoos (read Wash Days)  later with Miss Jessie’s

Love this stuff. Buy it from: http://misshessies.com

…and all of my allergy symptoms are gone. Which leads me to believe that although I have a fresh-cut grass allergy, the culprit was on top of my head and dripping down.

Share your story if you’ve experienced the same thing OR if you know of a trick maybe a prep step to help overcome it drop a comment. The gray babies can’t stay, I’m too young for the number of sprouts that I have so I’m covering them with something. 🙂

99 Problems And A Kink Ain’t 1

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So I have to say this. I know I’ll probably get a few wild email responses but I’m prepared to defend my opinion.

There are many things within the community of those of us that have curly and kinky hair to be upset about. Crime, Wealth disparities, Police Brutality, Educational gaps, the Prison Industrial Complex, the Military Industrial Complex, Lack of a cure for Ebola, AIDS, Diabetes, Lupus…. the list goes on.

Why on Earth do we choose to fight and get crazy with one another about hair? We go all out to put one another down for our choices, “you use heat?”, “You use color..”, “Do you finger detangle?”. We actually waste energy getting upset about hair. We talk about people’s children (You know exactly who I’m talking about) pop off catching attitudes in Natural Hair forums and other exhausting counter-productive efforts.

Here’s a quick tip. Smile more.

Do you know that it’s hard enough to walk into the board room/ muster/ formation/ interview with confidence and a head full of hair that is still not considered the “norm” without finding that the places designed for support (Our own TV networks, groups, forums, and conversations) are filled with some of the same negativity we feel we receive from others.

We can’t change the world all at once, but we can individually pledge to be a little nicer to one another. When that angry bug starts biting the back of your neck making you want to say something snarky or mean, look for the light. Find where your experience and expertise along this journey can actually help someone more than hurt them.

Remember, there’s plenty of places that you can put that mad energy and use it to garner some positive results….

But hair? We talking about hair…. Not the struggle that people have put everything on the line for. We sitting up getting mad about hair.

*Allen Iverson Practice Voice*

 

Love 🙂

On another note I am still working on the product line with the development team. You can purchase the first product Growth Formula no.76 on Etsy.com but we are developing a full line.

Nappy Out Loud 1.0 ~ The Movement

I know that this site is for naturally curly and kinky hair and there are many of you that are not African-American. Know that I love you, but in this post, I’m not talking directly to you. However, I am a believer that we can all learn from one another and apply universal lessons introspectively without regard for source or intended audience so read on.

Now, on with the post.

From Eric Garner to John Crawford to Michael Brown this has been a rough summer in Black America. The above named, may they rest in peace are not the only lives that we have lost to the spirit of hate. We have been killing one another at record rates in the city of Chicago and all across the country. Why?

David Banner posted on his Twitter Feed

@therealbanner : “Our situation is more psychological than people will admit. Black kids kill black kids for the same reason cops do. They see no value.”

I believe that now more than ever it is important to push the agenda of self-love within our community. Not just inside the natural hair community but every child of the Middle Passage on this side of the Atlantic (because it’s not just a USA plight) needs to be able to look in the mirror and see both beauty and value.

So what do I propose that we do as sisters in the struggle to reconnect and with our heritage and our roots? I propose an extremely small step as an act of solidarity that we go weave and makeup (heavy) free for the next 30 days. What will that do?

Remember the first story in this series where I told you all about how young black girls would stop me in different places and ask me about my hair? I want them to do that you too! The more of these young ladies we can reach the more that we can instill pride and display the value in who we are as a people and they will then possibly influence the young men. Don’t forget to tell them what you do for a living and be sure that you pay them a compliment in kind! (no big deal right?)

It’s not going to shake up the world… we won’t make the news… it won’t be on CNN… but I can remember growing up and seeing the women in my mother’s circle of friends wearing and making African garments and reading stories or singing songs to their children about Kings and Queens and the concept of the Village. Years later I can readily grasp at how proud I have always felt to be Black, even in the face of being called out of my name. I have been able to defend myself with my words because they had been given to me by my elders.

“I am proud of my heritage and who I am.”

We all hail from different tribes and countries, many of which we are not aware of the exact origins, but the curls and kinks connect us, our skin in every shade connects us and our history in the collective sense entwine and unites us. Let the children see who we REALLY are. Be Nappy Out Loud for 30 days and share your pictures/stories  with the hashtag:

#NappyOutLoud

 

on every form of social media. Show us pictures of you doing work in the community, excelling academically, having good clean fun with friends, being a family, etc. (THE NEXT BIG POST IN THIS SERIES WILL CONTAIN A COMPILATION OF ALL OF YOUR GREAT PHOTOS THAT WE CAN FIND ON THE WEB)

The media would have us believe that we are less than human. We can’t be too surprised as this has been the consistent propaganda ever since the south wanted to count slaves so they could obtain greater representation and the North wasn’t having it, (look it up for yourself…that’s off format, but it’s true).

Let’s do this very small thing in an effort to restore the children’s vision of just how valuable and beautiful we are. Perhaps they will be more inclined to respect, protect and love one another.

Follow me on Instagram where I’ll be posting my #NappyOutLoud pics @Marri76.

Nappy Out Loud 0.1

So I hope you all rock with me on this. This is the first post of many where I plan to explore the life of being natural in a world that hasn’t quite figured out what that means. These posts are strictly for entertainment/encouragement. I still want it to be easy for you to find the tips and tricks but this part needs to be shared. These will fall under “The Journey” category if you ever miss a story and want to find it quickly.

Currently I’m in Ohio and the natural hair movement here is a bit different. The spectrum ranges from the militant “Overstand me” black is beautiful crowd; to the divas that are along for the trend and the thick swinging hair. Then there are people like me that are in the middle and see the economical, mental and physical benefits of not subjecting oneself to European standards of beauty on African hair and body.

So what’s the point of starting this series?

Because I still get stared at walking down the street when I’m having a big hair day. Not just from the little old white ladies that you expect to serve you major side-eye, but from people who I think look like me. I know I can’t be the only one.

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I used to make up stories for people when I caught them staring.

“It must be because I’m tall.”

“Maybe I’m wearing something that they haven’t seen before.”

Or my favorite line that I know my man is thoroughly tired of;

“Do I look crazy?” 

The fact of the matter is that there are not many, in this area at least, that are un-apologetically Nappy Out Loud.

Nappy Out Loud: The act of having nappy hair outside, in front of people, on purpose.

Now I embrace the fact that I’m unique, but what I’ve embraced even more are the phenomena that take place (I looked it up, that’s the right word) when I’m out since I’ve just owned my individuality in style. The young girls that stop me in malls or out on the town and start conversations about my hair just when I really start to feel my odd ball vibe turn up a notch.

“I’ve been thinking about going natural.”

“Is that all your hair?”

“How long have you been natural? I just started, what do you use?”

So if you’re out there hiding under a weave, a hard press or just in a state of not being quite ready to give the world your 100% natural self. I hope that in the upcoming weeks (or however long this still makes sense to do) as I share stories of what I’ve experienced you find the courage to be Nappy Out Loud!

Be sure that you subscribe and share with all of your friends (CLICK THAT FOLLOW BUTTON IN THE TOP LEFT). I plan on telling you all the stories that I usually keep to myself, as they occur. From the people who I catch staring and what I say, to the ones that actually have the nerve to touch my hair or say something crazy. (LOTS OF IN-LAW STORIES ON DECK …. They’re not ready).

Join me on this journey, Nappy Hair, Out Loud, In front of people.

-Clutched pearls and twirled curls

 

The Fine Print

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The devil is in the details. 

So I thought I’d share a hair journey moment brought to you by moving too fast and not reading enough.

So I’ve been rocking the crochet braids this week and getting lots of compliments.

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One of my coworkers decided that she wanted to try the technique to add a pop of color to her locks. She has type 2b fine hair so finding a store with the color she wants in her texture proved to be a task.

Off to the store we go after work in search of some Crayon grade colored bulk hair. 

Fast forward,  that just doesn’t exist in a retail to the public environment. 

Being the creative genius that I imagine myself to be I suggest that we find a high level blonde (613 to be exact) and deposit the color she wants. Makes good sense,  sounds easy enough to achieve right? 

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Add this to some developer and we’ve got color right? 

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Baby,  when I tell you that hair served every level of little old lady bouffant tea… It looked like she went gray.

So why did that happen?
1. Notice the label on the first picture…. bogus human hair.  They had the nerve to lock it up with the real deal. Human Hair Quality is a nice way to say synthetic. Unless it’s a silk protein fiber, you can forget about color unless you spray it. 

2. That color was a tint!  The swatches lie. We should have never expected a vibrant color in the first place.

In the end we ended up just adding the tint to the ends of her hair.

I shared all this as encouragement in your DIY journey.  Reading is fundamental!  I hope you got a good laugh, we certainly split our sides when we realized the number of mistakes made in our execution of the style. We completely abandoned the initial plan and decided to try it on a day that we hadn’t just worked for hours having fried or brains. 

Hair is a process,  but tonight was a tribulation. If you can’t make it to a salon be sure that you read every label, like I’ve been preaching over the past year. Even the seasoned Old Fros get caught slipping. 

As usual ask questions when it stops making sense.
#LOVE