Since I’ve been gone…(Hair gallery Update)

I have not taken this site down because I want this to serve as a standing resource for any hair questions that I encounter along my journey.

I have restarted my locs, working on building a family and in doing so my focus has shifted away from hair and more to surviving and thriving as a black woman in America. I am still available if you have hair questions but come visit me at BlackMaggie.com if you want to see my latest passion project.

 

Here’s where I am on my hair journey:

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Life on the other side of my loc attempt

I have been having the time of my life since I took my locs down. There are days that I miss being able to just wake up and go, but not many. Locs are beautiful, on everybody else but me. 🙂

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I’m posting some pictures of the fun I’ve been having since taking my hair down, but I thought I’d share with you a moment that took place this weekend that changed my thought process on my hair.

I’ve done every type of style imaginable over the past decade, relaxer-free. Weave is my weakness, but it’s not a chemical, and I don’t use glue so I’m still on #TeamNatural.

Sunday evening I raced all over town, completely forgetting about the fact that during the Christmas shopping season the stores in the mall stay open until 8. I made it to a hair store in what I thought was the nick of time with only a half-hour to spare.

I paced the isles toggling between a full sew-in and long twists with Marley hair to hide away my hair in the cold. I never spend a lot of money on the hair I sew in because I rarely keep a style over two weeks, but the prices have changed dramatically. The cheap hair that hangs in the isles is $30/pack. For those of you that haven’t ever explored the Wide World of Weave, the isle is reserved for the synthetic, non-human or poorly conditioned hair and the price range for that is not much higher than $20/pack. I found myself asking a question that I’d never considered before.

Is it that serious?

How my hair looks is always important to me, let’s not confuse that. However, it’s not become important for me to achieve styles that my own hair isn’t designed to do. I have fallen completely in love with my curls and kinks. My new perspective on a good weave is one that accentuates my hair, not one that hides it away. Straight hair is fun, but not when I doesn’t feel like a straightened version of what I grow.

It used to be very easy for me to braid my hair back and take on a new personality, and now the thought of it gives me separation anxiety. During my short loc journey I was taken away from being able to play with my hair the way I’d become accustomed over the years. I’m not saying that I’ll never rock a wig again, but I believe my journey helped me appreciate my own hair so much more.

 

I unlocked…. kind of

Those of you that follow @OohMyHair on Twitter know that a couple of weeks ago, I jumped off the loc wagon. It took some concentration and a half a bottle of: Taliah Waajid- The Great Detangler

There are thousands of videos and blogs on how to do this, so I will get down to the WHY behind my decision.

There’s a piece of me that blames you. 🙂 In this time of sharing what I’ve learned and love about having natural hair I began to miss my hair like crazy. Even the business cards that I’ve been covering the world with have a great big fluffy, perfectly imperfect Afro. I just couldn’t take it anymore.

The versatility of loose natural hair is what made me fall in love in the first place. Even in the in-between stages, there are so many styles, twists and pin-ups that keep you feeling cute and sassy. I felt like I looked like Celie (Color Purple) every single day I woke up. I have very strong Motherland features, so it doesn’t take much to make me look like Addy (American Girl).

The individuality of loose natural hair was another love point. It’s hard to find someone with my “hair style”. Even if we are styled the same, my texture brings in my own flavor. I walked around with my locs, and it seemed like everybody in the world had not just my hair…. but a better version of what I was trying to do. It drove me insane.

Lastly, I had a bad case of Hand in Loc syndrome. I’ve styled and played with my hair ever since I can remember. (There’s a few photos of me at age 4-6 standing on the bathroom counter with my hands in my hair… I’ll try to get Mom to dig them out.) I hate to know what I’m going to look like day in day out. I need to be able to match my mood with not just my outfit, but my hair. It’s hardwired into my DNA, I’m certain.

Great big deal:  most of my outfits were selected with the Fro in mind, so the locs just messed up the lines visually and detracted from the over all Stun factor that I was going for. I spent my excursion in Toronto feeling BLAH. That’s no good.

In all I appreciate what I was able to learn from my 6 months. I had to just deal with my insecurity and own it. I found a way to activate my inner Diva, even though I never felt like the outside matched. I didn’t hide away in the house. I traveled and met new people both things that I used to have a hard time getting comfortable with, believe it or not. My locs made me fearless and for that I’m grateful.

I just needed to have my hair back.

As always, ask questions when it stops making sense. Thanks for staying on the path with me. I’ve had a chance to work on the product line more and my test subjects are in LOVE. Still working out a few kinks 😉 but I hope to bring you something that you’re going to absolutely LOVE. Because you deserve it.

Transition in the mind…

Most of you know I’m on the Loc Journey. This is just about the most difficult hair decision I’ve ever had to make. This, I feel is more permanent than a relaxer. I have committed to one hairstyle, and that’s the first time I’ve ever done that in my entire life. When my hair was natural and FREE, I could have any style that I could imagine, and weave was not an option that the heat took off the table. Now I feel like the rebellious version of a “Side-part Under” (The Game, TV show fans will catch that reference). I am aware that this takes patience and in time I will be able to rock the funky styles and welcome some beautiful indecision onto my head. This however feels like what I’d imagine jail feels like, which is not too hard to imagine since I’ve been in Navy boot camp.

There has to be someone out there that knows what I’m going through and has some advice. And if there is not a versatile loc solution, I may be forced to create one. What’s a Diva to do?

This is also the longest time that I’ve put nothing but Shea in my hair, which hopefully proves beneficial in the long run, but I’d be a liar if I said I didn’t miss the sweet smells of manufactured green products. I’ve been avoiding using products that my Loctician doesn’t provide in an effort to not end up with locs that look dirty and stink. As I get things ready for the set I’m building (small-scale, don’t get too excited) I feel the jealousy welling up in the fact that I can’t PLAY anymore. Trust me ladies, if you’re starting your natural journey and not sure of how to feel, I’d insert lucky, because free hair is so much more fun!

Sorry to rant today, but I felt the need to let you know where I am on my own path. Hopefully you got a little laugh and some motivation. If you’re wondering about other Ooh News, we are working on getting things in place to do demos! It’ll take a while to get all the supplies, but in the meanwhile we will be conducting product reviews. Thanks for keeping up with us, and as always, ask questions when it stops making sense. Enjoy!

Butter Baby!!

Let’s start by saying that it takes quite a bit to get a product review out of any of the team here at OohMyHair.com but this product has proven to be the jam! This has stood up to the texture test and provided moisture across the board in a consistent manner from silky wispy curls, to tight coils and kinks. Of course the amount of product needed varies across types but the end result is not greasy.

Here’s the fun fact: This product has been the choice for dry twist sets. It’s a water based product so there’s just enough moisture added to put the hair in a state that it is able to hold a set without soaking your hair. This had been the trick to the overnight set for a few of us.

As nice as it is we do not recommend it for the loc journey because the cleansing schedule is different on that path. Some experienced build-up after a long period of time (three weeks). So, if you’re a frequent cleanser, this product is great.

It’s available at most stores, but it is not on our list for green products because of the preservatives present. Of all the “bad stuff” this is pretty good. Share your experience with the product below. Do you agree? If not, tell us why.

http://elastaqp.com/haircare/item/18-olive-oil-mango-butter-moisturizer

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We would hate to just hit you with information that you don’t want or need so now is your chance to determine the content on this site. We have a few ideas of how we would like to answer some of your natural hair questions, but we’ll leave it up to you to. Take the poll and forward the link to your friends. We’re here for you!