Hidden Files.. a style I never shared with you all.
My Granny had a saying: “Every table’s got to stand on its own legs.”
I’ve found many places to apply that saying in my life since she passed and today I’m going to apply it to hair.
Not just Natural Hair.
:::crowd gasps in unison:::
There’s a misconception that there’s a no maintenance way of having one’s hair. The only way that you can have no maintenance hair is if you just simply refuse to maintain it as a principle. You just make the choice to give up completely. I don’t know where you work or what brand you represent but it’s not easy for anyone to get away with that in mainstream society.
Now that we’ve got that out of the way, please pick your struggle. If you cut it all off, relax it, loc it, braid it, twist it…. there’s a routine that goes along with keeping it looking the way you want it.
Don’t waste your time convincing yourself that life is better somewhere else and enjoy the journey of where you are today. There will be days that you want to give up being natural, I think we’ve all had a “You know what… I quit” day, but just remember nobody’s holding you hostage.
This whole journey can be about self-love, health, individuality, heritage or none of those things. It’s up to you to decide what it means to you, because after all… you can’t stand on anyone else’s legs, you’ve got your own.
I hope this brought some peace to someone struggling with this path.
You can always contact me for questions. #Love
If you’ve ever sat through a Google Helpouts session with me you’ve heard me say this before.
You have to own it!
What does that mean?
That means that no matter who gives you tips, tricks or advice, it is up to you to devise the best possible hair care plan that suits you best. Nobody has to live with the decisions that you make for your personal appearance and wellness but you. It’s ok to have a one track mind when it comes to digging out information that will help you along your journey.
Even among the “experts” there is room for not just misinformation but things can be passed along that can potentially cause you harm. This is not to say that people have not gained awesome advice from simply asking people that they think would know the answer. I’m just making you aware that there are very-few absolute authorities within this industry, so be mindful of that fact if you find that something just doesn’t add up. Don’t just ask more questions, but research the independent concepts on your own.
For Example: the MSDS is available online for almost any chemical found on a label, which will possibly help fill in the gaps and help you make your own informed usage decisions.
Instead of tossing out all of your shed hair (s/n to the international readers, in America there are some people who believe in burning it so nobody can do voodoo on you…) save a bit to test some sample products on. Shed hair is useful, especially for those of you that have been asking questions about those temporary straightener products that I shall not name. Take the theories that you gather from here and other sites and find out for yourself.
Above all else, be sure that you make style, care and any other choices with self-love in the forefront. Looks like we have a theme song people. Thanks Kendrick Lamar 😉