Nappy Out Loud 1.0 ~ The Movement

I know that this site is for naturally curly and kinky hair and there are many of you that are not African-American. Know that I love you, but in this post, I’m not talking directly to you. However, I am a believer that we can all learn from one another and apply universal lessons introspectively without regard for source or intended audience so read on.

Now, on with the post.

From Eric Garner to John Crawford to Michael Brown this has been a rough summer in Black America. The above named, may they rest in peace are not the only lives that we have lost to the spirit of hate. We have been killing one another at record rates in the city of Chicago and all across the country. Why?

David Banner posted on his Twitter Feed

@therealbanner : “Our situation is more psychological than people will admit. Black kids kill black kids for the same reason cops do. They see no value.”

I believe that now more than ever it is important to push the agenda of self-love within our community. Not just inside the natural hair community but every child of the Middle Passage on this side of the Atlantic (because it’s not just a USA plight) needs to be able to look in the mirror and see both beauty and value.

So what do I propose that we do as sisters in the struggle to reconnect and with our heritage and our roots? I propose an extremely small step as an act of solidarity that we go weave and makeup (heavy) free for the next 30 days. What will that do?

Remember the first story in this series where I told you all about how young black girls would stop me in different places and ask me about my hair? I want them to do that you too! The more of these young ladies we can reach the more that we can instill pride and display the value in who we are as a people and they will then possibly influence the young men. Don’t forget to tell them what you do for a living and be sure that you pay them a compliment in kind! (no big deal right?)

It’s not going to shake up the world… we won’t make the news… it won’t be on CNN… but I can remember growing up and seeing the women in my mother’s circle of friends wearing and making African garments and reading stories or singing songs to their children about Kings and Queens and the concept of the Village. Years later I can readily grasp at how proud I have always felt to be Black, even in the face of being called out of my name. I have been able to defend myself with my words because they had been given to me by my elders.

“I am proud of my heritage and who I am.”

We all hail from different tribes and countries, many of which we are not aware of the exact origins, but the curls and kinks connect us, our skin in every shade connects us and our history in the collective sense entwine and unites us. Let the children see who we REALLY are. Be Nappy Out Loud for 30 days and share your pictures/stories  with the hashtag:

#NappyOutLoud

 

on every form of social media. Show us pictures of you doing work in the community, excelling academically, having good clean fun with friends, being a family, etc. (THE NEXT BIG POST IN THIS SERIES WILL CONTAIN A COMPILATION OF ALL OF YOUR GREAT PHOTOS THAT WE CAN FIND ON THE WEB)

The media would have us believe that we are less than human. We can’t be too surprised as this has been the consistent propaganda ever since the south wanted to count slaves so they could obtain greater representation and the North wasn’t having it, (look it up for yourself…that’s off format, but it’s true).

Let’s do this very small thing in an effort to restore the children’s vision of just how valuable and beautiful we are. Perhaps they will be more inclined to respect, protect and love one another.

Follow me on Instagram where I’ll be posting my #NappyOutLoud pics @Marri76.

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That Kind of Hair Day

English: Erykah Badu; Live in Bruges, Belgium ...

English: Erykah Badu; Live in Bruges, Belgium – 2006; (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Nobody is exempt from a not so easy to deal with hair day (we’re trying to avoid “bad hair”). No matter your texture, curl pattern, color or length, sometimes our hair just refuses to comply. Here’s a few go to looks, sure to counter cantankerous tresses.When in doubt, wild it out.

Lucky for all of us the Bohemian look is in right now. On the days that nothing will tame your hair, use some type of ornament (headband, flower) and rock it with confidence. Nothing says I meant to do this like adding a finishing touch. This should be reserved for the weekend if you’re not able to get some professional assistance.

Tai Chi the Situation.

Try not to fight your curl pattern on these days. Try to put your hair in the most calm state possible. Condition, rinse and style. Notice that I did not suggest shampoo. Unless you’ve switched to a sulfate free product sometimes shampoo only makes the situation worse. This is the technique that you read about on other blogs and websites called Co-wash. During this process massage the hair rather than rough manipulations to allow your texture to reveal itself. When you’re ready to rinse don’t completely remove all product, leave some conditioner behind to help keep your hair pliable. Part your hair and two-strand twist it down while it’s wet, make the twists the size that your hair will roll into easily without much tension. You can air dry and wear this style for a day or two and continue to add moisture, once it seems that your hair has calmed you can take down the twists and wear your hair curly. You’ve turned one difficult hair day into two great styles.

Walk away from the scissors.

If you feel like your ends may need to be clipped call in the Pro’s. There are some people who will tell you to go through your hair and clip your single strand knots, but for days like this keep the scissors out of your hands until you return to a more comfortable state. This feeling has led many to secondary and tertiary big chops all over the world. The problem that many of us have found is that the problem increases from uncooperative hair to ends that won’t curl down. If your regular stylist is not available, go to a mall salon and get a deep conditioning treatment. You may discover that there’s no need to cut and you’ll most likely walk away with a style you can live with until you get a better idea.

Scarf styles.

There are many ways that one can wear a scarf. This is not the time to get your sleep scarf and head to Wall-Mart only to end up the subject of another blog. We try to keep a few pieces of nice light  decorative fabrics around to play with a few looks. Some of us here at OohMyHair.com go for the Erykah Badu look, while others go more T-shirt bun India.Arie. Be creative, there are some fabrics that are thick enough to make the African headdress look that was so popular in the 90’s. Remember to line your scarf with satin (do this also with your hats), no need to lose moisture while you’re taking some time out to think of a new style.

Above all else carry your head with confidence. Even Oprah’s had some not so great hair and she’s got a team dedicated to just that. Don’t beat up the mirror or curse your ancestors, just own this moment (because it won’t always be like this) and strut your stuff. Take what could have been an Eww my hair day, and flip it to an Ooh my hair day.

As always ask questions when it stops making sense. Enjoy!